Resetting in 2026: Taking Back What I Can Control

There’s something about the start of a new year that makes us want to breathe deeper and stand a little taller—even when life hasn’t turned out the way we hoped.

For a long time, so much of my life has felt out of my hands. My body. My timeline. My future. The waiting. The not knowing. The watching everyone else move forward while I stay in the same place. If you live with POI or infertility, you know that feeling well. It’s like your life is constantly on hold while the rest of the world presses fast-forward.

So as 2026 begins, I’m not trying to magically fix everything. I’m not forcing optimism. I’m doing something quieter and more powerful:

I’m reclaiming what I can control.

Control Looks Different Now

I can’t control what my ovaries do.I can’t control how long this season lasts.I can’t control if or when I become a parent.

But I can control how I show up in my own life.

I can choose how I speak to myself.I can choose where I put my energy.I can choose what I allow to define me.

This year, my reset isn’t about becoming a different person—it’s about coming back to myself.

When Your Life Doesn’t Match Everyone Else’s

So many of my friends are married now. So many are pregnant or raising babies. Their lives are full of milestones that society celebrates loudly. And mine looks… different.

There are days when that hurts deeply.Days when I feel left behind.Days when it feels like I missed the right timeline.

But different does not mean bad.

It just means my story is being written at a different pace.

We are taught that life should follow one neat script:School. Career. Marriage. Kids. Family.

But life doesn’t actually work that way. It never has.

Some people build families early.Some people build them later.Some people build careers, friendships, creative lives, or chosen families first.Some people build things that don’t fit into any box at all.

None of those paths are wrong.

They are just different stories.

And I’m finally allowing mine to be one.

What I’m Resetting in 2026

This year, I’m taking back small, quiet forms of power.

I’m letting go of the idea that my worth is measured by milestones.I’m choosing to stop comparing my timeline to everyone else’s highlight reel.I’m making space for joy, even if my life doesn’t look the way I once imagined.

I’m allowed to build a meaningful life right now—not just after something changes.

That, to me, is real control.

A Different Kind of Hope

There are things happening behind the scenes.There are things I’m working on.There are pieces of a future I’m quietly preparing.

I’m not ready to share them yet.

But I will say this: 2026 feels like a year where something shifts—not because everything is solved, but because I’m no longer waiting for permission to live.

So for now, all I’ll say is…

Watch this space.

Because even in a life that doesn’t follow the expected script, there is still so much more to come.

And this year, I’m finally stepping back into my own story.